The first secret - the power of thought -
Love begins with our thoughts.
We become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving experiences
and loving relationships. Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts
about ourselves and others. If we want to love someone, we need to consider
their needs and desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help
you to recognize her when you meet her.
The
second secret - the power of respect -
You
can't love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first
person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect
ask yourself, "What do I respect myself about ?" To gain respect
for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself, "What do
I respect about them"
The
third secret - the power of giving -
If
you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it. The more love
you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself,
freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before
committing to a relationship ask not what the other person will be able
to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret
formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus
on what you can give instead of what you can take.
The
fourth secret - the power of friendship -
To
find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not consist
of gazing into each other's eyes, but rather looking outward together
in the same direction. To love someone completely you must love them
for who they are, not what they look like. Friendship is the soil through
which love's seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship,
you must first bring friendship.
The
fifth secret - the power of touch -
Touch
is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers
and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional
states and makes us more receptive to love.
The
sixth secret - the power of letting go-
If
you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours,
if it doesn't, it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need
their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to
forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting
go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions. "Today I let
go of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is the beginning
of a new life"
The
seventh secret - the power of communication -
When
we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone
is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you love
them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those magic words "
I love you" . Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone.
Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could be the last
time you see them. If you were about to die but could make telephone
calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you say
and ... why are you waiting ?
The
eight secret - the power of commitment -
If
you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and
that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment
is the true test of love. if you want to have loving relationships,
you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed
to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes
a fragile relationship from a strong one.
The
ninth secret - the power of passion -
Passion
ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through
physical attraction alone, it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm,
interest and excitement. Spontaneity and surprises produce passion.
The essence of love and happiness are the same
The
tenth secret - the power of trust -
Trust
is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person becomes
suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels trapped and
emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you
trust the completely. Act as if you relationship with the person you
love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is
right for you is to ask yourself, "Do I trust them completely and
unreservedly ? " If the answer is "no", think carefully
before making a commitment.
It
would help to keep these few observations in mind : we are born with
two eyes in front because we must not always look behind, but see what
lies ahead, beyond ourselves. We are born to have two ears, one left
, one right so we can hear both sides , collect both the compliments
and criticisms, to see which is right.
We
are born with a brain concealed in a skull, then no matter how poor,
we are still rich, for no one can steal what our brain contains, packing
in more jewels and rings than you can think. We are born with two eyes
, two ears , but one mouth for the mouth is a sharp weapon, it can hurt,
flirt, kill ; remember the motto - talk less, listen and see more.
We
are born with only one heart, deep in our ribs, it reminds us to appreciate
and give love from deep within. Hating people is like burning down your
house when you want to get rid of a rat.
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